2nd Attempt and Donor Egg Consideration

So, my first IVF cycle ended with a chemical pregnancy. While this of course wasn't the result we were hoping for, it was certainly progress and I feel happy for that. The scariest thing through all this has not been my miscarriages early on, but the recent year of not getting pregnant at all. Baby steps! 

When I spoke with Dr Garza he was very pleased with the first cycle and wants me to try again right away. I did a marathon run down to Mexico yesterday to get my new batch of meds - the drive began at 2:30 am and I got back at 3:45 pm. It was a real mad dash.  Anyway, Dr Garza gave me preparation meds to take for one full cycle and then, once my next cycle starts, I'll go back down to Mexico for supervised treatment. 

The only unfortunate aspect to all this was a realization that I will most probably miss my cousin's upcoming wedding at the end of October. It's an event I've been looking forward to for quite some time and I'm really sad to miss it. 

If this next cycle fails, we'll probably go the donor egg route. Using a donor egg would increase our chance of success to 50% each round. It also reduces the risk of chromosomal abnormalities that cause miscarriages or various syndromes such as Down Syndrome. 

At first the thought of using a donor egg was hard for me to process. But, as time goes by, and I learn more about it, I'm beginning to really welcome the idea. When I asked my OBGYN in Austin about it he was very supportive. I asked him if his patients bond with their donor egg babies and he responded with, "Is that what you're worried about? If you carry a baby for nine months, with him/her kicking inside you, that baby is yours 100%!" Also interesting is research showing that the mother's body genetically influences the baby she is carrying. They have been doing studies on this after noticing the strong physical resemblance between mother and donor egg babies. Neat! 

Anywho... While we're not quite there yet, I've been thinking about the donor selection. Dr Garza typically matches the mother to the donor by physical appearance. We have other priorities though with physical appearances being last on the list. Nevertheless, once our other priorities are met, and if possible, we're going to ask for a donor with black hair and creamy skin 😀. 

Before I end this post, I want to share a little of yesterday's trip with you. Driving at 2:30 am was nice. There was little traffic on the road and so I has a good run with no frustration. It did start pouring after a few hours though and that made driving hard. After a bit I think I experienced a form of tunnel vision - it was hard to see. 

Luckily the rain stopped before I got to Brownsville so I was able to walk to Dr Garza's office without difficulties. during my walk i saw orange trees full of oranges and a large jasmine bush that we call Mulla Poo in Malayalam. Mulla Poo has an amzing fragrance and I picked a flower to take with me. I was in Mexico for about three hours.

I had packed a couple of sandwiches to bring with me so ate in the car as I drove home. I saw a lovely pond full of purple lillies, a flock of birds that were white with black detail, swooping and creating beautiful formations high in the sky. They acted like river terms but were much larger. And, while not so natural, but still beauty in my eyes, Ikea being constructed relatively close to home!  We are very excited about this!

I don't think there will be much for me to write about during the next few weeks. I'm giving myself one shot a day so things are pretty uneventful. Check in towards the end of October though and there may be more to share!

P.S. My car battery died today and I had to get a new one. I was very grateful that it happened today and not yesterday down south somewhere!